I am really having a hard time with Wills dad. He is house/dog sitting for his girlfriend this weekend. He will be coming to Portland Saturday for something and has asked if he can take Will Saturday night to stay with him at his girlfriends house. He says its so he doesn't have to drive back and forth so many times to let the dog out. If I didn't agree he wanted to know how far north I was willing to drive to meet him so he didn't have to drive so far.
Really? First I will admit, I don't want my son sleeping over at her house. I don't like her. (To be fair, I don't know her, Will likes her and says she's nice so that's all I need to know I guess...). Anyway, I told him my gut reaction was "HELL NO!" But that I realized that was a reactionary answer so I would think about it to make a more reasonable decision. I still came to the same decision. I explained that I didn't want to give up my night with Will. (I'm very protective of my Will time, and feel very guilty when I do let him sleep over at my parents so I can go out) I love the bedtime routine, I love waking to him in the morning. I don't want to give that up. I also explained that I wouldn't be driving to meet him half way (or anywhere in between). I explained calmly that I shouldn't have to be put out and waste my gas for him and his girlfriend. Dog sitting is very nice of him, but why does it have to impact me? He said it didn't, he could take Will Saturday night instead. Why should I have to give up my time with my son because its convenient for him, and saves him gas? I don't agree to help friends/loved ones and expect him to be impacted negatively by it. This is his responsibility and he knew the implications when he agreed/offered. I'm not upset he asked, there is never any harm in asking. What upsets and offends me is his response. He seems to think my answer is only a personal attack against him, to which he responded with anger, bullying and threatening language. This was nothing personal towards him and solely personal in how it impacted me and my time with my son and financially when things are already tight without spending more money for an ex husband who left me under less than auspicious circumstances and his girlfriend.
Tonight Will told me his dad has been asking Will all about my boyfriend. I will admit to A LOT of curiosity about his girlfriend. The only questions I have EVER asked Will are general questions I would ask no matter where he had gone. "Did you have fun?" "Is she nice?" "Do you like her?" Having asked those questions (the second and third questions were only asked after the first time they met)
As far as I'm concerned I have no right to grill Will about his fathers girlfriend. He should NOT be put in that position. However, if others want to offer up their insights: please private message me and feel free to dish! lol
Why then does his dad feel its ok to ask Will on multiple occasions about my boyfriend(s)? Is it because he doesn't trust me to honor the 6 month agreement we made? Is he just too nosy he doesn't care about the position that puts his son in? He has never even asked me if I was seeing anyone.
Well, for those of you who have read this far, thank you for letting me vent. I don't know what retribution there will be for not making life as easy as possible for my EX husband, but from his parting words last night I know there will be in some form or another. Time will tell.....have a great night everyone.
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